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Mad, Sad or Glad Mindset

Posted on February 24, 2020 at 8:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Mad, Sad or Glad Mindset

Your mindset is key. Your brain is amazing (of course it is, tucked right inside the REST of the amazing body of yours!). When we think of mindset, we think of the power to change your mood, change your outlook.

 

Growing up, our mom would hand out horrible, unattainable tasks such as ‘make your bed’ or ‘vacuum the living room’ (she was a monster) and in our grumblings to get them done, she would say, ‘It doesn’t matter HOW you do it… as long as it gets done. You can do it ‘mad, sad or glad’- that is up to you. But if you do it ‘glad’ you will feel happier, and, heaven forbid, you may even feel good about yourself while doing it. You might even be proud to be part of a beautiful clean house. Over the years, I can’t say I have always done dishes with a smile on my face, but it stays in my mind. The choice is mine. Even with small tasks. Choose ‘Glad’, as often as you can…. You have the power.

Keep sparkling, 

Kris

 

5 Ways to Nurture Self Love While in a Relationship

Posted on February 15, 2020 at 12:55 AM Comments comments (0)

 1. You Own Your Happiness 

Only you can do that! Your partner can enhance the happiness that you nurture in yourself, but it is not their job to make you happy. If you rely on them for happiness it becomes a burden. Make sure you take the responsibility yourself. It starts with adopting a mindset that happiness is a choice, meaning you give yourself the power to create happiness for yourself. The only person you can change is you. Let gratitude enter your heart and mind and choose happiness now.

2. Independence is important 

Keep your own activities and your own friends. Spend a healthy time apart doing your own thing. It’s unhealthy to let your relationship absorb your identity - you both matter as individuals and a little space is great. 

3. See what Others See in You 

When you describe a best friend, how easy is it to go on and on about how wonderful they are? Or talking about how amazing your partner is. Imagine if you could do that for yourself! That is key. Hold on to compliments, believe the beautiful things others say about you. You mean the world to your people in your circle. Embrace it, and believe it. I

4. Allow Yourself to Be Human.

We all have our flaws. Some things can be ignored; others might be something you want to work on. Either way, don’t let it get you down or get in the way of self-love. Recognising flaws is a natural part of a relationship; it doesn’t mean you are a terrible person or that you are unlovable, it just means that you are human.

5.Love is an Action 

Decide to act in a self-loving way. Make time to nurture yourself and fulfill your own needs. Make sure you are getting time for you everyday. This can be simple activites, like morning meditation, going the yoga, reading or enjoying a cup of coffee. Be mindful about it- if you let these moments or activities slip away without recognising 'this is for me and I am important', then the benefits will add up. 

hugs from Kris

 


Choose A Black Out Week

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 2:20 PM Comments comments (0)

Choose a Black out Week every month.

That is one week where you do ZERO spending. 

Not one cup of coffee, no impulse buys. Tell your friends 'no' to a lunch. Start with small training so you can manage your money better. I am even filling up with gas on Saturday so I can get through the week with a zero spend. 

For me, its often $9 here and $12 there that adds up. When I am in my blackout week, it keeps my mind on my money. It really makes me think about it. My goal is to sharpen my spending, resist my impulses and realise that the little amounts add up... faster than I realise. 

This training makes it easier for me to start to say 'no' to other times and other things. I realised I had a large entitlement feeling attached to things I bought- I deserved a new bathing suit, I needed new shoes, I could justifiy buying almost anything. Well, it was on sale, I hardly ever treat myself, it was only $16!

So many reasons to just buy it... when I need to shift to, 'what are the reasons to not buy it?' I don't need it, it's still money going out, does it align with my values and future goals. 

Small steps, big impact. Try a blackout week next month and see how it feels.  

Hugs from Kris 

Gaining MORE momentum ... #3

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Once you have been working at your business, it can start to take over. The daily tasks and how busy you actually are can really hit! 

Getting the word out about your business is constant. Planning is key for me. I MAKE time to plan my next month ahead- this planning includes the next growth steps. Marketing dollars are often small when you start, you don't want to overextend yourself too soon. But there are plenty of ways to market your business and get the word out. Here are 4 ideas to start with: 

1. Facebook Group - use your group to leverage friends, ask for invites BUT make sure your group is providing value in your posts. People will not care if you are just selling. You have to engage them - use creative questions, share jokes, ask yourself, 'What would I want to follow in this group?' 

2. Talk about it! This seems simple, but we often miss chances at the coffee shop, grocery store and soccer night. You have a business you are excited about- let other know. If they are really interested, they will continue the conversation. If it ends up being 'polite small talk', that is just fine! YOU still did it. You shared it. 

3. Put up posters in local coffee shops- lots have community boards- put up a poster or postcard. People parouse them when they get their condiments and it's a low-cost way to get the word out. 

4. Join the Conversations- find other businesses like yours on social media. Follow and engage with them. Create a support network of like-minded professionals. Most people want to help. We like offering advice and supporting one another. 

5. Facebook Page- post daily. Make a plan to do 1x a day. Vary your post, but keep it going. 


Keeping Romance Alive

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Keeping romance alive can be simple and fun! When I talk with couples about their romance slipping away, I like to review some of the simple things that can bring it back.

1. Take turns planning dates. This way one partner isn’t doing all the planning and organizing. It's nice to have someone take care of all the decisions and details! 

 

 

2. Show your appreciation every day. Ask yourself: 'What can I do to celebrate my partner today?' Those little words, compliments, kindness- they can go a long way. Smile when you see your partner! Every day, share your beautiful smile with them. 

 

3. Surprise your partner. Small surprises can impact your day- this can be a note in a lunch, a video text or sweet voice message. Something small, but that you don't often do. It shows that you care and it will make your partner smile. 

 

 

4. Plan a 'Just Us' time. Choose a night of the week, and commit to it. Even if it's a night in, spend it together on the couch- talk about why you love each other and celebrate the relationship you have. Remember what sparked your love! Talk about your memories and good times. 

5. Mix things up. Routines are par for the course in a long-term relationship. Try a new restaurant, take a class together, do an activity you haven't tried before. Check out 'Things to Do' in your local area and just go for it! Even if something is not as you expected, it could end up be a fond memory and that's what life is built on. 

 

6. 60 second hugs! I love these so much. Just silently hug for 60 seconds, and notice how good it feels. Your bodies connect and you feel that love and safety in your connection. As the hug goes on, you allow yourself to 'just breath' BUT doing this with your partner can be so effective. And it only takes ONE MINUTE. 

 

Hugs from Kris 

Newlywed More tips

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

 

2. When you've made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."

3. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule.

Hugs from Kris 

Newly Weds: 3 tips for your marriage .. again!

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

 

2. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're raising your kids or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

 

3. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

Hugs from Kris 

Another 3 tips for Newlyweds

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

 

2. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

 

3. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.

3 More Tips for Newlyweds

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

 

2. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

3. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

hugs from Kris 

3 Tips for Newly Weds

Posted on February 14, 2020 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

 

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

 

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.


hugs from Kris 


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